Love.
This post first appeared on the original BennyWithLove blog on Saturday the 7th of January, 2012
The concept of love is a topic which has been pondered for centuries and it has evolved with time. I can’t really define love; I’d like to, but it seems impossible to really encompass it by way of definition. The feeling of love, I suppose is the ache and desire to be with a certain person. The butterflies and shortness of breath paired with long late night phone conversations and the idea of a lifetime together. I find the topic often presents itself when speaking with friends and I have been keeping those conversations in the back of my mind as if researching the subject subconsciously. As you would all know one of my NY resolutions is to find my way to ‘consuming love’? Is it unrealistic for me to pine for a love that is so intense that I couldn’t possibly live without the other person? Does that love exist or is it simply the definition of lust and once the lust fades you are left with whatever relationship bonds were formed at this time? I should point out here that I have been spending quite a but of time of late watching numerous romantic comedies and will also admit here that I am a fan of Twilight! Ok, moving on- I once heard that the prescription for the perfect marriage is to marry your best friend. I don’t necessarily agree with this statement. Sure your life will be happy and harmonious if you were living with your best friend but what passion could possibly arise from mere friendship?
I’m not sure if I have ever really been in love. I’d like to think I have, but then again I’d like to think that true love doesn’t fade it is eternal. A friend of mine believes that humans were never made to be monogamous, he is however a self confessed cynic. This brings me to the topic of soul mates. A soul mate is defined as two individuals who possess a divine connection be that of similarity, intimacy, intuition, spirituality or affinity. Plato tells us in his Symposium that man originally had four arms, four legs and a single head made up of two faces. It is said that Zeus feared the power of man so he split them in half and cursed man to forever search for their other half. Moving on from mythology to religion. Numerous faiths believe that a soul mate is a partner, which an individual had in a previous life who has been reincarnated only to find each other in the present life. It’s romantic to think that one could have a love that not only lasts a lifetime but an eternity. Id like to think that there is my perfect match out there in the world, but I also like to think that the universe brings certain people into our lives for specific reasons. Perhaps they arrive to teach us things, prepare us for events; even hurt us so we have the strength to deal with pain later in life. I guess it’s just a matter of us being ready to let these people into our lives so we can find what we are looking for.
Food for thought.
Xxx Benny
